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Personal time or relax time is often why people want to learn how they can squeeze an hour or so out of their busy day. Often though, personal time becomes television time. You may think that if you only have an hour left before going to bed, there’s not enough time to start something so you might as well just watch T.V.

That’s where you’re wrong. You plan your day (even if you don’t know it) by working from 9:00 to 5:00, commuting from 8:00 to 9:00 and 5:00 to 6:00. Having lunch from 12:00 to 1:00 and preparing and eating dinner from 6:00 to 7:00. Why can’t you plan what you’re going to do with the hour that’s left just for you before going to bed?

If you chose to eliminate television from your evenings, you could reclaim at least an hour to develop yourself personally. You could learn new skills that you’ve been putting off like a new language, painting, starting your own company. You could invest your time on reading books that will enable you to start a new hobby or plan the trip of a lifetime. By reading and learning for only one hour a day about things that interest you, you would spend 365 hours per year on becoming a specialist at what you truly love. Who needs to go to night classes with that?! By spending only one hour a day on yourself, you will open up endless possibilities, become a new and improved person who has a life outside of work and therefore does not depend on work to have a life.

Remember: Don’t be too busy making a living that you forget to live your life!

If you would like to learn more on this subject or how to manage your time more effectively, click on this link http://www.EffectiveTimeManagement.com
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My name is Catherin Nellissen. I have been organising events and training for over 11 years. I have learned the hard way how important it is to stay on top of what’s happening and making sure that everyone working with me knows what to do in a timely matter. I believe that organization is the key to a successful career and life! Over the years, I have created templates that help me and the people that work with me keep on top of our busy workloads and reach our personal goals. I have decided to share my knowledge of time management, hoping to help other people take control of their busy lives and make sure they accomplish what their heart desires. Life’s too short - get organised!

Very shortly, in this paragraph, I’m going to share with you how to get just about anything you want. I usually try to keep things very simple and useable.

However, this is a very complex and sophisticated psychological principle, so I want you to be well prepared for what I’m about to say.

Take a deep breath. Are you ready?

OK.
Here’s the basic principle for how to get just about anything you want in life -

ASK!

“Oh man, c’mon! It can’t be that easy, can it?”

Oh yes it can!

You just have to know how to ask.

Here’s a suggestion. Go get the book, “The Aladdin Factor”, by Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen, the authors of the “Chicken Soup for the Soul” series. It’s a great little how to book, all about the power and strength of asking.

To be able to access the power and strength of asking, we need to be able to do at least two things;

1) Eliminate any barriers to asking, and

2) Learn how to ask.

Barriers to Asking

Knowledge of asking - The Eagles once sang, “So many times it happens, that we live our lives in chains, and we never even know we have the key.” The first barrier to eliminate is simply ignorance about asking. This is one of those times where knowledge is power.

Permission to ask - Too many times we have this belief that it shows weakness to ask questions or to ask for something we want. For some reason, men seem to be genetically programmed to not be able to ask for help. Especially if it has to do with asking for directions. Here’s a quick joke - “Why does it take a million sperm cells to fertilize one egg? Because the stubborn little guys won’t stop and ask for directions!”

How to Ask

Ask for what you want, not for what you don’t want - Now that sounds awfully obvious, but stop and think about it for a minute. If you are asking your spouse to stop yelling at you, your focus (and their’s) is still on yelling. Asking to be spoken to in a more respectful, caring manner is not only asking for what you want, it’s offering a few suggestions as well.

Ask clearly - In order to ask clearly, you have to first be clear on what you want. One way to do this is to get a clear picture in your mind of what you want. A fun and easy way to do this is to create a movie in your imagination of exactly what it is you want. Add as much detail as you can. Asking clearly allows you to…….

Ask specifically - If what you want is more money, it’s fairly easy to get a clear picture of more money. But how much? I can hand you a dollar bill and you’ve got more money than before. I don’t believe that’s what you meant by more money, however.

Ask the right person - In a recent seminar on the BRAAVO Approach, a woman asked me an excellent question - “If I know what I want, but don’t know what actions to take, what do I do?”

Great question.

The good news is you don’t have to re-invent the wheel. Find someone who is doing or has done what you want to do, and then ask them a few questions, such as -

How do I get from where I am to where you are?
What are three things I must do?
What I three things must I avoid?

So here are some questions for your consideration -

If you could ask for anything you wanted, what would it be? Think in terms of relationships, career, financial, etc.
What’s stops you from asking for what you want?
Who do you know that asks well? What could you learn from them?
What have you not asked for in the past that you now regret?
How might your life be different if you had asked?

Here’s one more suggestion, and then I’ll wrap this up. Knowing what you now know, what would you like to ask for in your life? Take a moment to reflect and get specific about what you might want. Now, ask for something even bigger and greater than that.

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Achieving the really big goals and dreams always involves breaking it down into do-able little steps. Assuming that you’ve picked a goal or dream that you really love working at, then most of the steps are a delight to take. No matter how much you love your dream and no matter how much you love your work, there are going to be tasks along the way that you really don’t want to do. Those pieces of work that we hate doing can be the very ones that sabotage our success. How do you stay motivated during those parts of the journey?

1) Reward yourself. Let’s say that I want to lose twenty pounds. That’s not too much, but it’s still going to involve more days of self discipline that I feel like doing. So, I reward myself with a little treat every time I drop five pounds. I get to have one of my favorite fattening meals at the end of each five pound loss. Then I go back to my diet. At the end, I get to go on a shopping spree to buy new clothes. Come up with a reward that you can use to motivate yourself.

2) Do it for love of someone else. My teenage son proposed a deal that works for both of us. I don’t smoke cigarettes and he doesn’t experiment with drugs. Every time one of us is about to give in to temptation, our love for each other stops us. I can’t light up knowing that he might start doing drugs because I broke our deal. He hates the idea of me dying of cancer, so he never touches any kinds of drugs offered to him by his peers. The love of someone else can motivate you to do what you otherwise might not be able to do for yourself.

3) Trade work with someone else. I’ve watched my kids perfect this style of motivation. My son will offer to scrub out the showers if my daughter will do the dishes for him. Hiring someone to do the work you don’t want to do is actually a form of trade. Barter or pay someone else to do it for you, so that you can continue moving forward with your dreams.

4) Truly consider quitting. I’m not telling you to quit, but to really think about it. If you’ve got a goal or dream that means a lot to you and you’ve already invested a large part of yourself into making it happen, then what would quitting feel like? Is avoiding the difficult or distasteful task worth giving up on your goals and dreams? The love of your long-term goal can motivate you not to quit.

5) Share the misery. This reminds me of friends in college getting together to study for an upcoming test. Having friends along can make the experience more festive then it would have been if you were doing it alone. Is there a way to team up with a friend so that the work is easier or at least more enjoyable?

6) Just get it over with. One of my all time favorite quotes about getting past your inner blocks was written by Stuart Wilde in his book The Quickening, “Cut the shit and do the thing.” Yeah it’s a bit rough, but we all know those stoic tough people who simply roll up their sleeves and dive in know matter how much they may hate the task before them. Take on a soldier’s mindset and just get to work doing the ugly parts so you can move on to the more rewarding parts of making your dreams a reality.

7) Get training or education. Quite often, we don’t like doing something because deep down we don’t think we know how or that we are talented enough. So, get the education, do the research, learn the necessary skills, or whatever else it is that you need to do to get ready for taking that next step. Once you’ve properly trained yourself, then you might even be enthusiastic about taking that next step.

Take a running start at it. Think of riding your bike uphill. It doesn’t take kids very long to figure out that the best way to get that bicycle to the top of the steep hill is to build up a lot of speed before you even get to the base of the hill. You then let that momentum help to propel you most of the way up. Heck, with enough of a running start you can sometimes make it all the way up without any major struggles. If there is a way to pace yourself and reschedule the not so fun parts of accomplishing your goals until after you’ve completed a bunch of the cool parts, then do so. The highs of your mini successes will help inspire you to push past the parts that you are avoiding.

9) Figure out a different way to do it. This is the supreme way to avoid doing the task all together. Be creative, be smart, think outside the box. Is there any way to make your dream come true without having to actually do the specific duty that you’re wanting to avoid? Sometimes you can find another way. Other times, just knowing that there is definitely no other path to your dreams other than the one before you is enough to motivate you to just buck up and get through it.

What’s most important is not how you keep yourself motivated but that you keep the long-term benefits of your goals in mind. If you focus too much on avoiding the uncomfortable parts of accomplishing your goals, then you won’t accomplish much. Find a way to keep going and remember that all things come with a price. Pay the price so you can get on with enjoying the dream.

Copyright 2004, Skye Thomas, Tomorrow’s Edge

About The Author

Skye Thomas is the CEO of Tomorrow’s Edge, an Internet leader in inspiring leaps of faith. She became a writer in 1999 after twenty years of studying spirituality, metaphysics, astrology, personal growth, motivation, and parenting. Her books and articles have inspired people of all ages and faiths to recommit themselves to the pursuit of happiness. After years of high heels and business clothes, she is currently enjoying working from home in her pajamas. To read more of her articles, sign up to receive her free weekly newsletter, and get free previews of her books go to www.TomorrowsEdge.net.

Skye@TomorrowsEdge.net

If you remember, last week we left off with:

“Yes Laramie had done the amazing. But then he did the unthinkable.”

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And now lets continue:

Laramie’s irresponsible activities soon destroyed the business he had worked so hard to build.

During the summer and the following couple years I would go to visit Millie, and occasionally all of our family would go over or they would come visit us. While I was at their house I could see Mary was very torn up over Laramie’s activities.

Eventually Laramie felt he needed to start over and he and the entire family left town, I assume to invade another relative’s home in another state and town. That was the last time I saw or heard from Millie for many years until we both by chance signed up for the same college in North Dakota 4 years later.

As the tornado that was Laramie and his family blew out of town, Laramie left 3 cleaning contracts for barber shops to my father. We always needed the extra money so every night my father and I would clean barbershops.

A new adventure, a new chapter, and a new beginning.

The barbershops had a distinctive odor, a mixture of smoke, hair crme, aftershave, and cut hair. Every night my father and I would clean the barbershops and we soon fell into a routine. When I walked in the door I would empty ashtrays and change the sand, straighten magazines, dust shelves and chairs and start on the mirrors.

My father would sweep the floor and then the last thing was to mop ourselves out the front door. The mop was the heavy work so my father always did that and I got to just watch as we finished up and then locked up the front doors. The owners had trusted my father with a key to their shops.

I did not get paid for my work, nor did I even expect to. But dad would usually take me over to the Sheridan Inn or another restaurant after we finished for a cup of hot chocolate while he drank coffee. That time with him was payment enough.

Occasionally we would find money on the floor, a dime or so, and I was instructed to always lay it up on the counter since it did not belong to us. I even remember a couple occasions when the barbers had left the cash register unlocked with money in it and dad called to announce it to them. The owners had rushed down and secured the money.

Two of the barbershops were next to bars. The White Barbershop was next to one bar that was very active on the first of each month. We had to go out the back door behind the barbershop to dump the trash.

But there was always something very disturbing behind the barber shop that I had to step over, very disturbing indeed.

You can read all the chapters of “How To Be an Entrepreneur” by going to http://salessuccessmagazin e.com. These stories are copyrighted by Timothy L. Drobnick Sr. 1995 thru 2005. Any person using this article must publish it without modification and include authors bio and links.

When comes to advertising your website the easiest most effective way to do this is using online marketing strategies.

Online marketing consists of utilizing networking technologies, Web 2.0 platforms, and utilizing information services.

There are a vast array of different ways to market things using the Internet but the most exciting thing about marketing your product on the Internet is cost.

Most of your marketing muscle is done in transit when people visit websites, leave comments, and share data.

The Internet is full of Sprite is anxious getting better. Even when the Internet first came out and people started utilizing the leverage networking strategies, the impact was still very potent. Imagine what will be like in five years.

online marketing can be easy but it’s also a skill set that you can utilize to leverage the power of word-of-mouth.

The cool thing about online marketing is something as simple as telling a friend about an article or sending a link to somebody can become a potent traffic targeting strategy.

Utilizing search engine optimization is also a powerful strategy that uses information websites to target visitors to your marketing page. More often than not even the simplest Internet marketing strategy yields incredible results.

Internet marketing is also very easy learn and there’s a lot of information about it all over the web.

Find out how a little smile on our face can make a big difference to our daily routines:

Smile, as an act has much potential in it. It is not that everybody does not like to smile - but it is that they do not realize the value of a Smile. Either they are busy in their own world of worries that they can not smile or it is that it do not come in-built with their nature.

Smile is a natural gift for people who keep smiling always. To have a smiling face means “no ill feelings”. To maintain the purity of life as we were born, smile is very essential in our lives.

Smile can build a bundle of joy to you. It enhances happiness in our lives. It is that one necessary thing that we do not forget “to be happy”. And, to be happy keep those smiles going on.

Smile should always mean natural happiness. If you are not in-built with this quality, adopt this as a hobby. I assure you that you will definitely feel much better than earlier.

Smile can make you free of your apprehensions. A little smile on your face can make a huge difference for the people around you. Even if someone is feeling vexed, they can forget about their problems at least for a while by seeing a cute little smile on your face.

Smile can give way to a lot of good things in life. It can build good relations around you. The very moment, someone looks at you, they can understand what kind of a person you are and about your nature. I feel it is a very great tool to reduce stress.

I would like to quote a few things which I have personally come across:

Smile in Joy & in Pain; Smile when sorrow pours like Rain; Because, Smile has a healing touch!! (This really works out!!)

Keep Smiling that is the best thing one can give it to others. (This is a personal compliment received by me from an elderly person)

We take birth in this life for a very short period. So, make every moment of your life a memorable one. Give happiness to others and you will definitely receive the same. We do see many ups and downs in this life - but we can make a change in this lifestyle only if we strongly believe that we are born for happiness. And Smile is the first and foremost step towards achieving happiness.

Hakoona Matata! (Don’t worry, Be Happy)

Keep Smiling!!!

Roopa Sushil

When we are healthy, we seldom think about what it feels like to be sick. But when we are really and truly sick, all we can think about is being healthy again.

No matter how much wealth we manage to accumulate in this world, it is virtually useless without good health. This is tied closely to the knowledge of our own mortality. Deep down, we all know that we only have a handful of decades on Earth and then it’s over.

In light of that, what becomes important then? That is indeed an interesting question. What is important cannot be money, because we can’t take it with us when we die. What is important can’t be our possessions because, once again, they are not going with us. Having money and possessions is very temporary. Those things cease to matter to us when we die.

Some turn to their relationships when they realize this. They feel that family and friends must be the most important thing then. Yet, we will lose contact with family and friends when we pass away too.

Some people die and then come back. They call this the near-death experience. Many of those people talk about what they saw in the state of death. They also talk about how they feel which is almost universally wonderful. There are a few that report going to a very bad place, but the majority feel good. They are free from the pain and suffering of their mortal bodies.

In the near-death experience, many talk about the life review process, where they see their entire lives displayed before them. The good things they do and the bad are right there. In addition they see how their actions and words affected others too. Apparently it can be quite painful to recognize how much we hurt others and caused others pain.

They also get to see the good things they did. I remember one woman who went through the life review process said that the most significant act in her entire life occurred when she was a little girl. She said that the most important action out of her entire life was holding a little flower in her hand and giving it unconditional love. That was it, out of her entire life that was deemed the most significant thing she ever did.

In light of that, we can conclude that what is important is not who we were but how well we treated others in this life. Therefore, when we contemplate our lives and set our goals, maybe it would be a good idea if we thought about others first.

Life is not temporary, but life on Earth is temporary. How are we going to face all those people who are watching what we do, when it is all over? Hopefully, we will have done things that we can be joyous about.

Is there any person on this earth who has not faced adversity? Life can be good , but adversities are also part of life. How does one face them with equanimity? It is difficult if the extent of adversity is very high. But one has to live through adversities and come back in life to succeed again. A sudden accident can make one lose limbs. A man who makes his living with his hands, will surely feel very bad and devastated if he loses his working hand. How about the effect of the announcement by the doctor that your child has cancer? Can parents take this news calmly? They will most probably faint when they hear it first. Some adversities are such that they shatter lives forever. But strong will and faith can help one face and conquer many adversities.

Who has not heard of Helen Keller? Her blindness and deafness could not shatter her indomitable spirit. There are so many instances of such people. I had corresponded with families of cancer stricken children. The pain that I saw was enough to shake the bravest heart. I remember a small kid girl, who developed second degree burns as a reaction to her Chemotherapy. Her mother had a guest book and the notes on that site could make anyone weep. The pain that the child was undergoing was tremendous. But the photographs of a capped child smiling and laughing in the laps of her father were heart warming. Somewhere the spirit was alive in the family to fight it out cheerfully.

I also remember my conversations with a blind man of 70 years of age. He was secretary of one of the blind associations. For sometime, during my talk, I realized that something strange was happening. Then suddenly it stuck me that this gentleman was using words such as Oh, I see, etc. without giving a pause. I was amazed with this talk. I knew that he had been a blind man for more than 40 years. I somehow gathered strength and asked him about usage of such words . He told me casually that there was nothing great about that. He could read and write and even type as well as any normal person. Though he had Braille. And he could see the faces with his touch. He had no regrets about his blindness. He had taken it as a fact of life and there was no feeling of having been dealt bad cards by the fate. Such people make us feel that adversities come to strengthen us. They test us. It is surely very tough to overcome them, but a strong will and faith in oneself and one’s God can give enough strength to overcome them.

Let us look at the life as a moving vehicle. As we move, we pass many scenes. Some good and some dirty. But we sit though the journey peacefully and reach our destination. We mostly remain unmoved because - we are not directly pained by the scenes outside and our focus is more on reaching the destination. In any adversity, at least the second part can be applied. Come what may, our object should be to create a good life and live as an example for others. That should be our destination and that should be our motivation.

Loneliness is one of life’s most miserable experiences. Everyone feels lonely at times, but is there a message for us in loneliness? Is there a way that we can turn it into something positive?

Sometimes loneliness is a temporary condition that lifts in a few hours or a couple days. But when we’re burdened with this emotion for weeks, months, or even years, it’s definitely telling us something.

In a sense, loneliness is like a toothache: It’s a warning signal that something is wrong. And like a toothache, if left unattended, it usually gets worse. Our first response to loneliness may be to self-medicate–to try home remedies to make it go away.

Busyness is a common treatment.

We think that if we fill our life with so many activities that we don’t have time to think about our loneliness, we’ll be cured. But busyness misses the message. It’s like trying to heal a toothache by taking our mind off it. Busyness is a distraction, not a cure.

Buying is another favorite therapy.

Maybe if we purchase something new, if we “reward” ourselves, we’ll feel better. And surprisingly, we do feel better–but only for a short while. Buying things to address our loneliness is like an anesthetic. Sooner or later the numbing effect wears off. Then the pain comes back as strong as ever. Buying can also compound our problems with a mountain of credit card debt.

Bed is a third response to loneliness.

We believe that intimacy is what we need, so we make an unwise choice with sex. After we come to our senses, we’re horrified to discover that this attempt at a cure not only makes loneliness worse, it also makes us feel desperate and cheap. This is the false cure of our modern culture, which promotes sex as a game, as recreation. This response to loneliness almost always ends in feelings of alienation and regret.

The real message, the real cure.

If all of these approaches don’t work, what does? Is there a cure for loneliness? Is there some secret elixir that will fix this toothache of the soul?

We need to begin with a correct interpretation of this warning signal. Loneliness tells us that we have a relationship problem. While that may seem obvious, there’s more to it than just surrounding yourself with people. Doing that is the same as busyness, but using crowds instead of activities.

The answer to loneliness is not the quantity of your relationships, but the quality. This is a distasteful cure for us, as dreaded as taking your toothache to a dentist. Satisfying, meaningful relationships take time and work. We’re afraid to open up. We’re afraid to let another person open up to us. Past hurts have made us distrustful. Friendship requires giving, but it also requires taking, and many of us would rather be independent. But the persistence of our loneliness should tell us that that kind of stubbornness hasn’t worked either.

If we have the courage to build worthwhile relationships, eventually we find that this is a cure that works. Our risks are rewarded. We find someone who understands and cares, and we find others whom we understand and care about as well. Like a visit to the dentist, this cure turns out to be not only final, but much less painful than we feared.

Jack Zavada helps people triumph over loneliness, anxiety, and fear at his web site http://www.inspiration-for-singles.com

The marital aid industry has seen an extensive increase in business since the seventies. This is part of the sexy aid revolution and a large benefit to mankind. Sex toys are an incredible way to add passion into your sex life, sexy toys will often help you come to orgasm and sex toys forever put a smile on your face. Male Sex Toys come in all shapes and sizes, check them out!

Whichever awesome sexy aid you decide to buy this Christmas let your needs be your guide. If you are into bondage play then go and acquire yourself a leather whip. if you are into romantic play then go and purchase yourself some feathers. Keep your mind open and see where it takes you.

The most famous sex aids on the market have got to be the vibrator. The above sensational sexy aids have been around for years and you have doubtless seen one in your local sex shop. Vibrating sex aids come in a variety of girths and colours, you can get them in mini size for your handbag right up to twelve inches. The wonder of a vibrating marital toy is the awesome vibration that it gives off, this vibration is the primary source of pleasure for females and could usually be changed in intensity to suit the female. Marital aids are outstanding.